“I just want to focus on my career right now.”

Oh please. Seriously?

How many of you have tried using, or caught someone using this story on you: ” I’m sorry, its not you, its just not a good time for me. I really want to focus on my career and get settled before i get into a relationship.”

Do people actually buy this line??

I’ll be honest, if I EVER use this line on you, its my half-ass attempt at trying to dump you gently. I’m also mocking your intelligence.

Similarily, if any guy ever tried to use this line on me to break it off I would laugh in his face, tell him to grow a pair, and then go home and cry myself to sleep. Its obvious, what an excuse like that really means is that the person is just not that into you.

I had a guy recently tell me he used this line on some nice girls that he wanted to let down gently.  Believe it or not, 6 months later he is still trying to hide from them that he is in a relationship because he doesn’t want to hurt them. As if these girls didn’t realize exactly what was going on the second he used the career excuse!

AS IF!

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Dating Tip for Boys

Submitted by: A.G.

Alright boys, listen up. There’s one little seemingly innocuous phrase
y’all keep uttering prematurely that really pisses us girls off—”I’m
just not looking for a relationship right now.”  Unless a girl you are
sort of dating/hooking up with explicitly asks you where you see things
going, saying this line is presumptuous, annoying and a major
mood-killer. How? Why? These are good questions.

Let’s be honest—when you’re really into a girl, you don’t close
yourself off to the possibility of things getting serious. So “I’m not
looking for a relationship right now” can only be interpreted in the
following ways:
1. “I’m not looking for a relationship with you.”
2. “I just want to get laid right now, but I’m trying to maintain a
good-guy image by being up front about my hornball intentions.”
3. “I’m being rude and presumptuous by assuming that you want a relationship with me even though I don’t want one with you.”

Actually, come to think of it, there is really no good reason to
ever use that phrase, since we all know that it means one of these
three things, or often times D) all of the above.

It’s been my
experience that the best relationships sneak up on you precisely when
you’re not looking for one, so scaring potential mates away by
appearing relationship-phobic is never a good strategy.  If you’re not
interested in dating a girl exclusively and you have reason to believe
that she wants more, you owe it to her (and to your good guy
self-image) to be honest and explicit about your intentions. However,
if you’ve been having fun with a girl and have no idea what level of
commitment she wants from you, don’t insult her by presuming that she’s
already picking out your babies’ names.  The vast majority of my female
friends are intelligent, independent girls who would much rather be
alone or dating casually than wasting time with a guy who is wrong for
them or just not that into them. We can handle the truth. So feel free
to stop bending/sugarcoating it.

And if you’re one of those guys who goes around thinking that every
girl is dying to be your girlfriend, calm down—I just asked if that
seat was taken.

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